Mother In Law

You can choose your husband but not your mother in law and that is one thing common between all types of marriages . Some women are fortunate if the mother in law is dead before she is married and if you are one of them, then the rest of the monologue is not meant for you. Probably you wouldn't be even present in this crowd. You would be living a life of your dreams. If there is anything where destiny or karma does a play a role and mostly a negative one then that is when you have a mother in law. Imagine a girl is playing with her favorite doll and you snatch it away and start playing with it. Will that girl be ever ok with that? Probably never! That is what you did to your mother in law by marrying her son. So by default a mother in law has to hate you and it is but natural for you to return the hatred. Now returning hatred by hatred is fun and that is why human beings have been indulging in it for centuries. In an ideal world a man should have had to stop talking his mother from the day he got married or his mother should have just dropped dead with no scientific explanation or no prior medical history the minute you stepped in to his life. But this world is less than ideal. Even killing your mother in law is not considered as a legit act of self defense and you are charged with man slaughter. Now you have this person who is going to criticize you in everything that you do. This is that person who would constantly compare you with her herself before your husband. She will tell you the recipe for the dish that your husband likes readily but would keep out one or two vital ingredients , so that your husband feels that its not the same. "Mom has magic which you lack!", he will say. Even after being someone?s wife she doesn?t understand that heart is not exactly a man?s weakest part. Good food is not what a man always wants. She doesn?t get it that a man can do without his mother but not his wife. Mom is the past and wife is the future. So on .. many things that Mom In LAW doesn?t want to understand. If you trouble her she will fall sick and extend her stay in your house or worst consider your house as hers. If you listen to her she will bore you to death. A Mother in law is like a tail bone in human body , its just there , once may be it served some purpose but not today. I can't find provide a solution , the only thing I say is that one day you would be a mother in law too and harrass your son's wife and get even. May be thats what is going on ...